Why people you helped turn away from you

      Sometimes it happens – you helped a person, you saved him in the darkest and most hopeless time of his life. Maybe he experienced a loss or a serious illness, maybe he was deprived of property, a position, kicked out of somewhere, maybe he found himself in debt and in humiliating poverty.

      And if it weren’t for you to lend him a hand, he would have completely collapsed and remained at the bottom. But you saved the person and supported him. You were there for him throughout the difficult period.

      The person got back on his feet, got better, his situation improved, money appeared. And he leaves. He walks away from you. He begins to avoid communication. He turns his nose up, as the popular saying goes. If you call or write – he answers reluctantly. Or doesn’t answer at all. Relations cool down and disappear. And you wonder: what happened? After all, you saved the person, cured him of troubles and suffering.

 

Here's what happened

 

      You were just medicine. Bandages and gauze to treat a wound. Antibiotics. Painkillers. The person was treated with you, that's what happens. And when he recovers, he throws away the bandages and unnecessary pills. Now they only remind him of the bad, and who wants to remember the bad? You remind the person of the difficult period of disasters and humiliations. After everything is fine, you are of no use.

      Cooling occurs for two reasons: you are no longer of any use, just as there is no use in taking medicine after recovery.

      And the second: you remind the person of the bad weather and lower his self-esteem just by thinking about you. In the memory of such a person, you are associated with unpleasant events.

      This is not how very noble and honorable people act. People who tend to use others when they need medicine, shelter or help. If a person distances himself, the reason for his problems is clear. And it is clear why he found himself in a dire situation. And why no one else wanted to help him except you. Now you don't want to either. This person is losing, screwing up first of all himself. 

      And life itself will reward you. You shouldn't grieve for too long.

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